What is a conscious-loving relationship?  Simply put, a relationship that recognizes  and acts upon the awareness that  you came together for a sacred purpose and that purpose is to help each other become more whole. Yet so often the opposite seems more true.  Why is this?  The answer lies in the unconscious ego based  reactive patterns rooted in our unmet needs from the past.  The  opportunity is  in allowing the love that is present within the relationship to heal the wounds that are the source of the patterns.

Do we actually  hide from the very thing that we most seek, intimacy?     In-To-Me-See.

During early childhood, you learned to bond with your caregivers in ways that felt good to you. This is where you learned many of the bonding patterns that continue in your adult life as the foundation for all of your relationships. No matter how satisfying those early relationships may have been, you also had certain perceived unmet needs. These are the same needs that you seek to get met today particularly in your romantic relationship. Cosmic Joke is, we try to get these needs met from the same energetic match of the people that couldn’t meet them in the first place.  And, unless the relationship becomes conscious of this, they wont be met in your present romantic relationship.  When you can give your partner what s/he most emotionally needs,  s/he heals and becomes more whole and you grow to become more flexible and whole yourself in the process. Not a bad deal!  We all get to choose; conscious essence based love or unconscious ego based false love.

Whatever is not healed in your relationship now will repeat, in your current relationship and/ or a future one. The time for healing is now.

A conscious relationship can take many forms, ranging from  monogamy inside a life long relationship with another to a creating  conscious community with others.  Yet a relationship with our most intimate partner can be one of the most profound spiritual paths available to us. Romantic relationships are dramatic teachers of wholeness, showing us where we need to heal. Problems with our intimate partner can be an opportunity to grow in to greater wholeness, both personally and as a couple.

Our soul seeks real love. Our ego often creates false love. False love is ego based and concerned with protecting our vulnerability and getting what we think we want.

Real love…, Essence based Love desires to fully see the soul of their beloved and takes the risk of being fully seen by this beloved, in all its vulnerable glory.

In Wholeness!